Other than that if you're wealthy you could go for the surgery option. It took a conscious, concerted effort to feel more confident about my looks. Accepting your mortality. He fought a hart battle and I cried for all those years. Youth is a distant memory, middle age is long gone; you’re a senior citizen and you look like one. 4 Tips to Help You Come to Terms with Aging ... Because if you are 40 then it’s not possible you look 20! Or you could get a lot of plastic surgery, and everyone can feel sorry for you, because now you're the woman who got a lot of plastic surgery. I first want to say that I am so sorry for your loss. To come to terms with feeling ugly, start by confronting beauty standards that may be warping the way you see yourself. If your biggest fear is getting older, the best thing that can happen to you is getting older. It's a loss of control. ... For your beauty to be ambushed, brutalized, and eventually completely destroyed by the aging process. It is not only a physical loss but a piece of your heart is missing. No “quick-fix” solution is going to make … There is a moment, and it happens to all aging women, where you understand that you've lost the race. When your body changes after children, it’s … Whatever the cause of your grief, though, there are healthy ways to cope with the pain that, in time, can ease your sadness and help you come to terms with your loss, find new meaning, and eventually move on with your life. The grieving process. You may even want to consider a close crop. And believe me, it’s not just about “looks” on a surface level—the way you feel about your looks is a key signifier of the way you think about yourself. Get a shorter haircut before you start treatment — it will make your hair look thicker and may help hair loss seem less noticeable to others later on. Grieving is a highly individual experience; there’s no right or wrong way to grieve. Each stage of your journey will be completely different, and as you wander through your grief, emotions will come and go. Coming to Terms with Aging. I know because I loss my son in November after a 5 1/2 year battle with StageIV colon cancer. Especially after children. But coming to terms with the inevitability of death can help teach us to live more fully in the here and now. It surely isn't the picture we have of our mothers or grandmothers. The people on TV and in magazines aren't perfect in real life -- the images you see are manipulated and you shouldn't judge your own beauty by those standards! Death is an unavoidable part of the cycle of life, yet many of us do everything we can to avoid accepting our mortality. From our perspective, 50, 60 and older can look great if you take off your mask and let your face grow into becoming who you are. That's right! When he passed, it was not peaceful because he was in excruciating pain. 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